Saturday

Year Four Book Two
Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg
November 17, 2016
Overall Rating: 3.89/5
Angela: 5/5

Jamie: 4.5/5 

Nicole: 3.5/5

Nikki: 4/5

Stephanie: 5/5

Lacey: 4/5

Amy: 2.5/5

Laura S: 4/5

Robyn: 4/5

Lauren: 5/5 

Laura R: 4/5
I was so happy to hear all the positive reviews of this book during our meeting! I am glad people were able to connect to it. I think I must have biased myself by reading negative reviews of the book before reading the actual book.
Lots of talk about her own personal successes, I found it hard to connect with the anecdotes of working in DC or Silicon Valley, being COO, etc. Like, we get it; you’ve had some amazing jobs. Also found that the parts thrown in after these anecdotes ‘the same idea could apply to other jobs too’ or ‘other jobs are just as important’ seemed disingenuous.
From NY Times review: ‘Given her positions first at Google and now at Facebook, it is hard not to notice that her narrative is what corporate America wants to hear. It is cheaper and more comfortable to believe that all corporations need to do is urge younger women to ‘lean in’, to think differently and negotiate more effectively, rather than make major changes in the way their companies work.’
The core takeaways from the book are still very positive, but not unique or groundbreaking
1. Need more female representation at higher levels of corporate management
2. Recognize that it may be in your nature (as a woman) to second guess your ability to succeed. Stop doing it!

3. Removing barriers for women to stay in the workforce requires more than just an effort on that woman’s part. 

Lindsay: 3/5 

Guest 1: 3/5

Guest 2: 3/5
Year Four Book One
All the Light We Cannot See by Athony Doerr
October 20, 2016
Overall Rating: /5
Year Three Book Nine
Runaway by Alice Munro 
September 10, 2016
Overall Rating: /5

Friday

Year Three Retreat: 
Nominations for 2016-2017 season 
September 9-11, 2016 Canmore, AB

2016-1017 year! 2017! That is wild! How do we still not have hover boards?!? On to the crew's book nominations for the new season. I thought to set it up a little bit differently this year. Opposed to hyperlinking the book's image to Goodreads reviews, we are adding a little blurb as to why we want to recommend the book. A more personal approach, I think! 

 Category One: Books Women From Away Love

I read this book last year and loved it. All of her books are amazing but this one really stood out for me. It's a love story between Ifemelu and Obinze that becomes complicated when Ifemelu leaves Nigeria for America leaving Obinze behind. It follows both their stories as they continue their lives in separate countries. It talks a lot about what race means in America. CNA is such a beautiful writer and I loved reading it and would love to talk about it with everyone!






I am not sure I can say that I was obsessed with Little Women growing up because I don't think I even read the book! But I was really into watching and re-watching the movie. I was fascinated with Jo! 


This book covers all the bases! It has a strong female character (Francie Nolan) and it follows her as she grows up in Brooklyn in the early 1900s. It was written by Betty Smith in 1943. A classic coming-of-age story about a young girl, it vividly depicts life in that particular time and place. I loved this book: Francie Nolan, the story, the setting, the author's own biography. It is one of those books that sent me to google to find out more because I wasn't ready for it to be finished.





Natalie Goldberg is an author I found this year, her words inspired me to write more. “Writing down the Bones” is all about creativity. The main focus being the creative writing process with a bit of Zen Spirituality thrown in. I read “Long Quiet Highway” by Goldberg this summer and ever since have been eager to read this, her most famous publication. I think we would all enjoy the wisdom of Goldberg, and also find ourselves inspired to write and be creative! It is a type of book we haven’t quite explored yet as a book club, more than a “how-to” on writing with a bit of spirituality.




When I first started reading Daring Greatly at one point I stopped and said "I hate you Brene Brown!" Well I think I used much stronger language...but whatever.  This book messed with my long standing worldview that to be vulnerable meant you were weak and to show emotion meant you didn't have it together. Brene weaves personal stories with years of shame/vulnerability research to make this a game changer - not a self-help book.  It takes real courage to be vulnerable and to read this book with an open mind can tangibly impact how you interact with those around you.  Hands down the best book I've ever read.



Circa 1950's Southern lit with terrific characters, clever dialog and a story that hooks from page one. This is my idea of a book that is the full package – great character development, great setting, captivating from the very beginning, pushes all your emotional buttons, tragic, but manages to lift your spirits in the end! And to be honest, it really affected me. It is one of the only books that has ever given me goosebumps or made me cry. I’m not sure I can pin down exactly what it was that did it for me – maybe how wrapped up I got in the characters, maybe the intensity of the scenes, but it also could have been this idea about faith and believing in something bigger than yourself and the idea of miracles! I’m not sure… but I would love to see if this book touches any of you guys the same way it touched me. 

Ok, put aside the idea of a cheesy movie starring Javier Bardem... Before LITTOC this was a Blockbuster hit it was an acclaimed book. Essentially this is a story about Ariza Florentino, who after being rejected by his true love at a young age, devotes his adult life to carnal affairs to heal his broken heart. But let's be clear - this book isn't really about the plot, or even love for that matter. On the contrary, it's about jealousy, desire, obsession, despair, civilization, disease, poverty, class and wealth, and ultimately for me: incredible, transportive writing.

Oprah has called LITTOC the "most romantic" book she's ever read. Other cite that this idea of "romance" is everything that's wrong with relationships today. Romantic or damaging? I want to know what the Women From Away think.

The first time I read this book I was looking to read a dark female story. At this time in my life though I am less interested in that line I am interested still in Atwood's early storytelling skill as opposed to her later science fiction works. This is the second novel she wrote, it's a short read and there is a lot to learn under the surface... Themes of Canadian nationalism, gender identity (specifically the marginalization of women), loss of family and the mystery of wilderness. 





I really want to read this because it has been recommended by several different people, and on a purely aesthetic note, the cover is beautiful. The title may lead you to believe it is all about baseball, but it really isn’t. I’ve heard that basic knowledge of baseball will increase you liking this. (Like where does the short stop stand.. ) But anyways, don’t let that deter you. it has been often related to Middlesex so I think it has a great tie in to a book we have read before. There are a lot of male relationships so it might be an interesting contrast to some of our feminist books. Lots of reviews by women said they loved the male characters and wanted to be friends with them, for whatever that is worth. 


Category Two: Historical Fiction

This book takes place in France in WW2 and follows two sisters as they try to fight the German occupation of France, each in their own way. It was inspired by the story of a Belgian woman named Andree de Jongh who helped downed allied pilots escape Nazi territory. It also has a rating of 4.53 on Goodreads! (Not that that matters :)) I read this last year as well and loved it. I thought the characters were well written and that it was an overall amazing story.






This story is a bit interesting in that it is set in plantation slave era USA, but from the perspective of a white orphanage living as a "house slave”.










I have had this book on my nightstand for the last few months and I really want to read it. Unfortunately life has gotten in the way, which is the only reason it remains unopened. It book looks so good. It is the story of two young people in World War II - a blind young french girl who is fleeing the Nazis, and a young German orphan who is drafted into the Hitler Youth. Lots of the reviews I've read say that this is an excellently crafted and written story and that the characters really connect with the reader. 





A novel about a young Scottish woman during the Nazis occupation in France. Cate Blanchett starred in this movie made in 2001 and I've wanted to read the book ever since. The book not only dives into the history of the German's occupation of France in WW2 but also includes espionage and intrigue, with a woman as our hero!







Lord of the Flies was pretty contentious...so I have a feeling his second book would be a great group read.  The story follows a family of Neanderthals as they first meet Homo sapiens and how they interact.  It's told through the eyes of one of the younger Neanderthals and raises lots of questions for the reader such as: were Homo sapiens really the superior race? We see the ultimate demise of the Neanderthals (spoiler alert???) and get a unique perspective on this rather mysterious part of history.





This book is about the last instance of capital punishment in Iceland in 1829. It is a true story written as a fiction novel from the point of view of a woman awaiting her imminent death. My mom says it is very dark and bleak... but I think I might just like that kind of book. I have a friend who wrote a thesis paper on this book and raved about it. It addresses so many different themes – societal and family pressures on women, class struggle, racism, sexism, capital punishment… etc. I think it could spark a lot of very interesting historical discussions and also ties in our feminism category! Also – there is a movie called “Agnes” from 1995 which we could watch as a group after reading the book and I’ve heard rumors that Jennifer Lawrence may be starring in a new version…

Set in the Ottoman Empire, this multicultural story revolves around a small Anatolian town comprised of Muslim Turks, Christian Greeks, and Armenians who live together in relative harmony. When WW1 breaks out, the peaceful cohabitation is turned on its head. In our modern-day times of ISIS, terrorist attacks, and hate-crimes, I am curious to read about how neighbours of different religions and races struggle through forced exile and genocide in culture founded on mutual respect, friendship, and inter-marriage. Emotionally captivating, intellectually interesting, and filled with humour and sorrow, one GR contributor writes that this book has a message: "It looks at people and life and it says loud and clear how stupid we human beings are and how wonderful too!”

I haven't read this book but have always wanted to. It is Boyden's first novel and is a mix between historical fiction and his own family narratives. Set in 1919 after WWI in northern Ontario, France and Belgium. Two narratives in the story both trying to untangle stories of their family, of the past and of their current life. Three day road is a story about journey, inspired in part by real-life aboriginal World War I heroes Francis Pegahmagabow and John Shiwak.







How did a city which was once America's richest become is't poorest?

*Laura's note: just realizing now that the category is historical fiction... This book is most definitely non fiction, but I'ma leave it here anyways :)







Category Three: Feminist Literature

A book about a high school freshman who was sexually assaulted at a party and how she comes to find her voice to talk about what happened. I though this would be a good topic, especially since there has been so much talk recently about rape and jail time in the media. This is also a young adult book and it would be interesting to see how the author presents a topic like this to a younger audience.
Full disclosure: Carrie Brownstein is my spirit animal. Her work on Portlandia is hilarious and her fashion sense is everything but (what I gather from reviews) none or very little of that side of her is overtly present. I know I also wanted to stay away from memoirs this year because they are so challenging to critique, buuuut I think this could be a representation of the frustrations I have with how feminism is portrayed and how we each portray it in the world. Punk Rock/Hardcore/Metal music have played a huge role in my life and I am often frustrated that the feminist messaging isn't portrayed in the mainstream as much (and the reasons for that!). As Brownstein points out the rise of Riot Grrrl (Bikini Kill, Hole) also became popular at the same time as the Spice Girls, which I think parallels the "Kardashian" brand of empowerment and feminism that is controversial now.  

I remember when Malala was shot - it was all over the news and I was one amongst so many who was shocked at the fact that the Taliban so brazenly targeted a child. I don't know why this story in particular stuck with me - maybe it is because Malala stayed in the news as they documented her recovery and then as she began her work championing education for girls. Maybe it is because this story really highlights the fact that gender equality still has a long way to go in the world. I am in awe of the person that Malala has become, and I would love to read her account of what happened and what brought her to where she is today.



I have always been fascinated with body image and how we have been forced to conform to someone else's ideals. I found pregnancy especially liberating as I was surrounded by a community of women who did not care what they looked like, pregnant or post partum but began to embrace their bodies for what they are and what they are capable of. I would love to see all women start to see their bodies as beautiful and I would love to read this as a way to see how this change in how we see our bodies was first introduced. 





Virginia Woolf’s most popular work, and my favourite piece by her. She weaves together the lives of eight individuals and stretches them out over a life span. The writing is poignant, witty and beautiful. How much more feminist can we get with Virginia Woolf?  I love Virginia Woolf so much and if you haven’t had a chance to read any of her works before, now is a perfect time! 







Despite being written 25 years ago this book is just as relevant today as it was then.  Although women have increasing power in society the pressures on women to be perfect also continue to grow.  The feelings of failure when these levels of perfection aren't achieved are reinforced and this ultimately leads to women not being able to actually achieve equality in society.  It's a must read for women to start challenging our ingrained notions of what being a woman means and how to respond to increasing unrealistic stereotypes.






This was written by the same writer as The Kite Runner and my favourite out of his books. Set in Kabul over the last 30 years or so - it’s the story of two women growing up in Afghanistan and how their lives intersect. I would say the main theme of the book is life for women in Afghanistan and it was incredibly eye-opening first time I read it. Hosseini visited Afghanistan in 2003, and "heard so many stories about what happened to women, the tragedies that they had endured, the difficulties, the gender-based violence that they had suffered, the discrimination, the being barred from active life during the Taliban, having their movement restricted, being banned essentially from practicing their legal, social rights, political rights". This motivated him to write a novel centred on two Afghan women. He says the book is about love and family and he calls it a mother-daughter story. I personally think this is a must read for any feminist... or any person I should say!

To be perfectly honest, this book caught my eye at Indigo some time ago because I was intrigued by the title (and cover)! Though after some of the more feminist-inspired tales we have read at bookclub I began to question – why does a female, who may or may not choose to live an unmarried life, get titled a “Spinster”? I thought it would be interesting to read this narrative about how to “live independently, with cues from an assortment of non-traditional women” and “the joys of solitude”. I look forward to hearing the various perspectives from our group of diverse marital statuses, life experiences, and opinions.

“What’s surprising about “Spinster” is how … the book sets forth a clear vision not just for single women, but for all women: to disregard the reigning views of how women should live, to know their own hearts and to carve out a little space for their dreams, preferably a space with 11-foot ceilings”.


A series of essays written by Gay, published in 2014. She covered cultural topics as well as her own personal experiences. She speaks to the tension of loving some things that go against traditional feminism and where she finds herself in the modern day. Her back and forth struggle to understand a Feminist perspective through race, politics, sexual violence, body image, celebrities, etc. 






Lean in is a book by the female COO of Facebook. It could be a good conversation book to add to the feminist category. It was a huge best seller and praised by Oprah, but also criticized heavily for being "faux feminism" or commercialized feminism.

Sunday

Year Three Book Eight
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night by Mark Haddon 
July 14, 2016
Overall Rating: 3.68/5


Lindsay: I  have to admit that (for no good reason), I didn’t have many expectations for this book, but I am happy to report that I was pleasantly surprised at how much I enjoyed it! I found TCIOTDITN to be extremely heartwarming and sweet. I loved the reading from the perspective of the narrator, Christopher and I found the plain, simple statements refreshing. I admire how the author managed to tell a larger, deeper story both within and beyond the framework of Christopher’s thought-process. A 4/5 for me.

Lauren: This was my second time reading it and I think I appreciated it more this time than I did the last time. I appreciated how unique the writing style was and the whole idea behind the book. I liked the creativity and the format of the book - that his therapist told him to write things about his day-to- day life down and that's what he was doing. Little quirky things like putting the math question at the back of the book or drawing things he thinks about, or even how every chapter went up by prime number. I liked that unique and witty aspect to the writing style. He lost me a bit in the story however. Towards the end of the book, the flow of the book changed... there became more of a “and then and then and then” approach to his writing and it bothered me. I think he lost the things that made the book so special in the beginning. So I can't help but be slightly disappointed, because I feel he really had something there and the end of the book felt very rushed for me. However, I did love that it was a super short read and an interesting, eye-opening look into the mind of somebody with autism. Things like the touching of hands because he doesn't like to be hugged, or the scene where he's discussing how too much stimuli makes him break down, start moaning and go into a corner alone to gather himself. Also counting the cars to determine what type of day it was going to be and not liking brown and yellow foods. It gives you an idea of the struggles that these people go through and maybe if you have somebody in your life that fits somewhere on the autism spectrum, it could help you to better understand them.

Wednesday





Year Three Book Seven: 
I Know Why The Caged Bird Sing by Maya Angelou
June 2nd, 2016
Overall rating: 3.8/5

Amy: I rated I Know Why The Caged Bird Sing 5/5! Why has it taken so long for me to read this one! Thank you Lacey for suggesting it and to WFA for voting for it! I will try to keep my thoughts short and succinct because I could comment on most chapters individually. 

I think because this book focuses mostly on Angelou's youth, the idea of childhood oppression or a child's lack of agency really sticks out. Maya didn't get to choose to live with her Grandmother in Stamps, didn't get to choose to go back to her parents and back and forth.

"It was the same old quandary. I had always lived it. There was an army of adults, whose motives and movements I just couldn't understand and who made no effort to understand mine" (Ch. 11)

Aside from that, race and the dehumanization of black people in the South bares a lot of the same injustice that is common decades after this book was published. Chapter 18 and 23 made me cry in the telling of dirty, tired people returning from working cotton fields but cleaning themselves up to gather for an all night revival meeting to invigorate themselves to face their masters with "charity" which speaks to a level of resilience I will never understand and that such heavy topics of race and discrimination coloured and shaped Angelou's story.

"People whose history and future were threatened each day by extinction considered that it was only by divine intervention that they were able to live at all." (Ch.18)

"I find it interesting that the meanest life, the poorest existence, is attributed to God's will, but as human beings become more affluent, as their living standards and style begin to ascend the material scale, God descends the scale of responsibility at a commensurate speed." (Ch. 18)

It was like the community was so tired and broken that these communal gathering to sing and encourage each other were vital to facing the next day and all the possibilities for violence they were expecting to encounter. 

Chapter 23 had a similar moment when the Graduation speech turned into a "remind them of their place" situation and again, sings the Negro Anthem helped centre themselves again to face daily opposition. Which is maybe what spurred Angelou to go on to become San Francisco's first Tram Driver?!?

Overall, super heavy read and the poetry of the writing made it easier to absorb compared to books like Roots or Twelve Years a Slave.

Year Three Book Six: 
Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides
April 21st, 2016

Overall Rating: 4.6/5



Sunday


CBC Canada Reads starts this week (March 21-24th) and book nerds everywhere are poised for the action! Now a few of us here at Women From Away take this stuff a bit more seriously than others but we love this contest all the same! This year we have a favourite and this post might just be an endorsement of why you should also love "Birdie" by Tracey Lindberg as much as we did. If you haven't read it, I will try to be vague as to avoid spoilers! I also think it is only fair to disclose our admiration for Tracey Lindberg on a personal level as we hold her as a sort of bookclub patron saint; as you'll see from the photo I have framed and prominently displayed beside my bed below.


"Birdie" was suggested by Lacey last year and was voted in during our intensely thorough voting process at our 2nd Annual Retreat. I think part of the draw for the WFA members was our experience reading "Monkey Beach". For many of us it was our first time reading fiction like this and experiencing what we called Concentric Circles. I think that is actually what it is called... but I don't have a reference to credit on that one (maybe a good time for Nicole or Stephanie to jump in here!). Basically, it is the idea of story telling circling around "the point", which allows the writer to include information that doesn't seem immediately related to said point. With "Monkey Beach" this was done through flash backs or the character reflecting back on previous experiences. This is where I think "Birdie" steps it up a notch.

With "Birdie" the main character isn't so much reflecting back or having a flash back, but actually goes back through her experiences and "re-lives" them to a certain degree to tease out facts or memories about herself and help work through her traumatic life experiences. This can make it very difficult for the reader to follow. Literally, I had to read with a notebook to fill in information about certain characters as I went along - which is a practice I have tried to maintain and I highly recommend. 

For me personally, the circular storytelling of "Birdie" brought out certain points more vividly, for example the concept of women taking up "too much space" and the desire to shrink themselves or even disappear, which Birdie did for certain periods of the story. 

For others in the group, the theme of justice came out strongly as well and we did read through this piece by Val Napoleon. There are a few spoilers in here, so I'll leave it to you to read through. 

The thing I love about "Birdie" and why Tracey Lindberg will forever be my imaginary best friend, is that she covered some of the soul crushing experiences of many First Nations, Metis and Inuit people in colonized regions (not unique to just Canada) but did so in a way that allowed readers, in our case a group of readers to react in their unique ways. This is not a story that a) tells you what happened and then b) tells you or shapes how you should feel about the story. Each woman in our group reacted to certain parts, like "Why is there a bird singing all of a sudden!?" or "Where did the ingredients list come from?" or "I can identify with Bernice feeling like she is "too much" in size or space."

In short, I think you should buy and read "Birdie" by Tracey Lindberg and then vote for it in the Canada Reads poll! And then obviously watch/listen to the whole show down in which ever medium works for you! 

**We were slightly crushed to learn that our "Man on the Side" Wab Kinew is no longer hosting this year but considering it is because he has decided to finally make a step towards being Canada's Prime Minister (albeit a few years from now), we will support the change to Gill Deacon as host**

Thursday



Year Three Book Five: 
Brain on Fire by Susannah Cahalan
March 3rd, 2016


Lauren: Five stars for me is always the kind of book that I'm riveted by, that I can't put down and I carry it around the house with me. And this was one of those. I think what I liked most was how technical it was. I found it particularly fascinating how doctors go about diagnosing mental illness. One part was explaining how they get people to attempt to draw a clock. They start with the circle and fill in the numbers. Just this simple task can tell so much about what the person is struggling with. Things such as the size of the circle they draw, issues with the layout of the numbers, graphical difficulties with the drawings of the lines/hands and even difficulties with understanding the meaning of the clock can hint at problems with the human brain including what lobe of the brain may be affected.
While reading other reviews, I noticed quite a lot of criticism on how she didn’t seem to incorporate her own feelings and emotions into this book, but I think that’s actually part of what I liked about it. She wasn’t present for a lot of what went on in her life during this time. There were large periods of time where she actually blacked out completely and has no recollection of it. So I think that she wrote the book in the best way that she could – explaining what she went through and explaining how mental issues can be physiological rather than psychological. This is not only a very interesting concept… but also terrifying.

I think this is an important book for people to read and very relevant today. There is so much we don't understand still about the human brain. And so much we don't understand or can't relate to in terms of what other people may be experiencing. It reminds me a bit of these commercials that are out right now where the people are discussing someone missing work because of mental illness. There is still so much negative stigma around these types of illnesses. I found her to be very open and honest about an issue that may have been embarrassing for her and I appreciate that she told her story.

Angela: Here's a surprise - I really enjoyed this book!  I felt that Susannah did a great job of combining the neurological, physiological and personal aspects of her journey together into an engaging and honest narrative. There were parts throughout her telling of the hospitalization where it came across as detached and impersonal but that connects directly to the fact that she has no memory of it.  She did a thorough job of piecing together her own story from other's accounts however you still get the impression that it is just that - other people's stories. 

I found it compelling in that I read it in two sittings and went on to read more about her work afterwards.  I found myself wishing to have a bit more insight or opinion from others and really enjoyed when she did fill us in on the emotions of her family as they went through it with her.  I think her journalism background really came through in how factually she presented her condition (which I appreciated) but also led to the detached nature of her writing style. 

This book really made me think about some of the people I've worked with and known who have been given labels, diagnosed, medicated and/or hospitalized for various 'mental health reasons' but how really so much about the brain is still a mystery.  At the end of the book when she talks about how if she had gotten sick 3 years earlier (before the discovery of her condition) or if she had gone to a different hospital or been assigned a different doctor OR if they had taken the Dr Bailey's word that she was an alcoholic ... what the outcome could have been.  She could have been been dumped in the psych ward for years or even died because of lack of knowledge about what could have saved her.  (My mind explodes just thinking about that!)  

In the end I give it a 4.  Well written and I would recommend it to others.

Amy: This story is wild! Straight up wild! I give it a 5 out of 5! 

I randomly picked this out of the shelf from the Public Library because they had it on display, so when I started I had no previous knowledge about it. After starting it, I couldn't put it down! 

One of the things that really struck me hard and has stuck with me in the year and a half since reading it the first time, is how mental illnesses are perceived. For Susannah is was discovered early that her "brain was on fire" because of an autoimmune disease that affected her in a lot of ways. At first Susannah presents like hundreds of people with mental illness do, but for some combination of luck and privilege she was properly diagnosed and treated. But interestingly, even I have a bias that says "Well, I mean she had an autoimmune disorder. She's not mentally ill!" and some how categorize an Axis I or II as being 'less than' kind of illness. But truly, how are these two types of illness different! So, definitely Susannah's story has challenged my perception of illness that hurt the brain so to speak (ie. delusions, paranoia...).  

Great pick Robyn! We'll all have to watch the movie together!